“They repay me evil for good;
my soul is bereft.”
– Psalm 35:12
Unfortunately, not everyone is going to treat you well! The psalmist writes of the injustices that can occur even in close relationships. Though he fasted and prayed for the well-being of others, they turned on him in his hour of need. They gossiped, lied, and undermined. It’s an unfortunate possibility in a fallen world and it hurts deeply.
However, this reality should never discourage us from doing good to others. It shouldn’t keep us from praying for those who have failed us, or who may yet do so. It shouldn’t keep us from loving and caring for others as our Savior modeled for us. He too was betrayed, slandered, and humiliated despite His deep love and care.
The psalmist finds his ultimate refuge in the Lord and that is where we too must look for comfort, peace, and identity. Though people may well fail us, the Lord is always with us. Though people may not appreciate our care for them, the Lord always honors our commitment to love our neighbor as ourselves.
If we do good things only to earn the appreciation or admiration of other people, we’ll grow weary, cynical, selfish, and exhausted. We’re called to do good things unconditionally, as a reflection of the incredible good already done for us by God through Jesus Christ. When our joy, sense of self-worth, and identity are rooted in Christ and His love for us, we’re able to love and serve sacrificially regardless of how those around us respond.